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Jodi Arias Trial - Dirty Little Secrets Or Dirty Little Lies?

The Lifetime movie based on the murder of Travis Alexander, "Dirty Little Secrets: The Jodi Arias Story" is reportedly set to air on June 22, 2013 on the Lifetime Movie Network.  The cast and crew who have been filming for several months halted the filming to watch as the verdict aired live in mid May.  The ending is being re-worked to include the guilty verdict.  

Actors Jesse Lee Soffer and Tania Raymonde are playing the lead roles and are pictured below in character as Travis and Jodi:

Photo From NY Daily News
What do you think of the casting? Some believe Raymonde to be a ringer of Arias. Appears close enough, although I believe Travis was a little heavier than Soffer appears in this photo.  Nonetheless the docudrama airs in around a month.  I think a more appropriate title would be "Dirty Little Lies: The Jodi Arias Story", but that's just my opinion!

The Arias defense team takes center stage tomorrow as the sentencing phase of Jodi Arias' trial resumes in Phoenix.  As mentioned in previous postings, the only two witnesses in addition to Jodi Arias are expected to be childhood friend Patti Womack and former boyfriend Darryl Brewer.  Seemingly absent from the witness list are Arias' immediate family members and longtime trusted friend Matt McCartney.

The question on everybody's mind is whether the defense will be able to sway the jury into granting Jodi Arias the mercy that was absent when she killed Travis Alexander.  Arias is big on quoting other people.  I'd say to her, "mercy is given where mercy is shown", in other words - too little and much too late.  She has had many chances to show remorse and to accept responsibility for her heinous crime, yet she refuses to acknowledge the life she took or the lives that she forever ruined.  She seems to have never looked back on the wreckage left in her destructive path.  Will she be able to find the words that may now convince the jury of her sorrow and remorse over her actions?  More importantly, will anybody believe her words? Her own lies have destroyed her credibility and her actions before, during and after the killing make her appear more of a sociopath than someone who snapped and made a regrettable mistake.

Looking at her behavior during the trial, and through what we have learned about her through her own testimony and expert witness testimony, she certainly appears to have many of the traits sociopaths display.  Some of the key interpersonal traits of sociopaths identified in a checklist by Dr. Robert Hare, PhD (from's Protect Yourself From Sociopaths: Learn To Recognize The Traits - Then Stay Away) :

  • Glib and superficial
    • It has been observed that sociopaths can be witty and articulate.  They are often amusing and entertaining conversationalists who tell unlikely but convincing stories that often cast themselves in a positive light.  They can be very effective in presenting themselves well and are often likable and charming. Typically sociopaths attempt to appear experts in sociology, psychiatry, medicine, psychology, philosophy, poetry, literature, art or law.  A signpost to this trait is often a smooth lack of concern at being found out that they are not.
    • Egocentric and grandiose
    • Psychopaths have have a narcissistic and grossly inflated view of their self-worth and importance, a truly astounding egocentricity and sense of entitlement. They see themselves as the center of the universe, as superior beings who are justified in living according to their own rules. 
  • Lack of remorse or guilt
    • Psychopaths show a stunning lack of concern for the devastating effects their actions have on others.  Often they are completely forthright about the matter, calmly stating that they have no sense of guilt, are not sorry for the pain and destruction they have caused and that there is no reason for them to be concerned. Psychopaths lack of remorse or guilt is associated with a remarkable ability to rationalize their behavior and to shrug off personal responsibility for actions that cause shock and disappointment to family, friends, associates and others who have played by the rules. Usually, they have handy excuses for their behavior, and in some cases they deny it happened at all.
  • Lack of empathy
    • Psychopaths display a general lack of empathy. They are indifferent to the rights and suffering of family members and strangers alike. Because of their inability to appreciate the feelings of others, some psychopaths are capable of behavior that normal people find not only horrific but baffling. For example, they can torture or mutilate their victims with about the same sense of concern that we feel when we carve a turkey for Thanksgiving dinner. 
  • Deceitful and manipulative
    • Lying, deceiving and manipulation are natural talents for psychopaths. Given their glibness and the facility with which they lie, it is not surprising that psychopaths successfully cheat, bilk, defraud, con and manipulate people without the slightest compunctuation about doing so. 
  • Shallow emotions
    • Psychopaths seem to suffer a kind of emotional poverty that limits the range and depth of their feelings. While at times they appear cold and unemotional, they are prone to dramatic, shallow and short-lived displays of feelings. Careful observers are left with the impression they are play-acting and that little is going on below the surface. 
  • Impulsive
    • Psychopaths are unlikely to spend much time weighing to pros and cons of a course of action or considering the potential consequences. More than displays of temper, impulsive acts often result from an aim that plays a central role in most of the psychopaths behavior: to achieve immediate satisfaction, pleasure or relief.  Psychopaths tend to live day-to-day and change their plans frequently. They give little serious thought to the future and worry about it even less. 
  • Poor behavior controls
    • In psychopaths, inhibitory controls are weak, and the slightest provocation is sufficient to overcome them. As a result, psychopaths are short-tempered or hot-headed and tend to respond to frustration, failure, discipline and criticism with sudden violence, threats and verbal abuse. It's not unusual for psychopaths to inflict serious physical or emotional damage on others, sometimes routinely and yet  refuse to that they have a problem controlling their temper.
  • Need for excitement
    • Psychopaths have a need for excitement - they long to live in the fast lane or on the edge where the action is. Psychopaths are easily bored and you will not likely find them in occupations or activities that are dull, repetitive or that require intense concentration over long periods.
  • Lack of responsibility
    • Psychopaths are frequently successful in talking their way out of trouble. They are almost as successful in convincing the criminal justice system of their good intentions and their trustworthiness. Although they frequently manage to obtain probation or early release from prison, they simply ignore the conditions imposed by the courts.
  • Early behavioral problems
    • Most psychopaths exhibit serious behavioral problems at an early age. These may include persistent lying, cheating, theft, fire setting, truancy, class disruption, substance abuse, vandalism, violence, bullying, running away and precocious sexuality. Early cruelty to animals is usually a sign of serious emotional and behavioral problems. Cruelty to other children, including siblings is often a part of the young psychopath's inability to experience the sort of empathy that checks normal people's impulses to inflict pain, even when enraged.
  • Adult antisocial behavior
    • Many of the antisocial acts of psychopaths lead to criminal convictions. Even within prison populations, psychopaths stand out, largely because of their antisocial and illegal activities are more varied and frequent than those of other criminals.
Do any of these sound familiar when reflecting on what we know about Jodi Arias?  I see a lot of symptoms that seem fitting. In particular, the lack of responsibility, lack of remorse or guilt, lack of empathy, deceitful and manipulative and shallow emotions seem spot on. Will Kirk Nurmi and Jennifer Willmott now try to paint Jodi Arias as a mentally flawed individual who was not capable of understanding the implications of her actions, or will they continue to portray her as a victim of abuse - shifting blame to her parents and away from Travis Alexander?

What would you do? Is there anything Arias can do or say that will even come close to swaying the jury to spare her life, or was this crime too vicious for any such mercy? Does Jodi Arias truly have a death wish, preferring a death sentence to living her life in prison?

 Arias' court room behavior, the jury's perception about the honesty or dishonesty of her testimony, the brutal nature of the murder, her lack of genuine remorse and her continued refusal to accept responsibility for what she has done are things that may put her on Death Row. These factors will be weighed against those mitigating factors Kirk Nurmi outlined on Thursday. Will it be enough? Could it ever be enough? We are very close to finding out.

Enjoy your Sunday!



  2. I agree, the male role doesn't look as stocky as Travis was and I wonder if anyone who actually knew either of them was able to consult on the movie.

    I think tomorrow will be another round of the Jodi show. The fact that she even had her art brought in as a mitigating factor says it all. Another way to make the day all about her. Rather than speak about guilt or regret...even if she said something like "I regret continuing the relationship with Travis" will be about her and that nothing is ever HER fault!

  3. It is my opinion that Jodi knows that a death sentence comes with multiple appeals...and that life without parole comes only with one. It is obvious to me that she is once again manipulating people with her words.

  4. My Forte, I read a blog written by a psychologist and she feels Jodi has more signs of Anti-social personality disorder as opposed Borderline PD. But she also feels Jodi shows so many other signs that she really fits into a box of her own.

    When I see Jodi, I can't help but wonder if she has actual evil intent, or if she just doesn't understand human emotion. She seems so flippant about Travis' murder. I wonder if it was done with a lot of rage and anger or if it was done with more of a "Well, he's making me feel sad so I'm going to get rid of him so I don't have to worry about him affecting me anymore" attitude. She does have that one journal entry where she writes about loving Travis so much and wishing she could turn it off like a switch, cut of its life source etc. There's no apparent malice or anger there, just more like her being tired of having such strong feelings toward him.

    I guess I could drive myself completely insane trying to figure her out! Thanks for the info. on the upcoming movie, I'm recording that one for sure!

  5. My Forte - awesome as usual, very interesting read!

    I think that JA may be an atypical anti-social or BP disorder but I don't think we will really know how deep her psychosis goes unless there is more analysis done. For me, the moment that Dr DeMarte diagnosed JA with BPD was the "aha" moment of the trial. I could clearly tell there was something off with her and the diagnosis put it in clear perspective. And the breakdown in your article furthers my understanding, thank you! When the FBI profiler put JA on the level of Bundy I really thought that might be a stretch but as more information is shown...

    DeBecker who wrote "The Gift of Fear" says that there is no real instance of people "snapping". DeBecker says there are always signs of the escalation and usually some final humiliating act, like filing a restraining order, that triggers the prep to commit violence. JA was definitely escalating and I am wondering if that threat of Travis's to expose her for what she'd done was the trigger. The book is great and a must read! I literally had the instance of someone approaching me at the back of the car that DeBecker describes years before I read the book and because of my past experience told the guy to stop right there.


    1. Sonja,
      Thank you for your comments! I have always believed the timing of the murder was no coincidence. The Cancun trip may have been the final humiliating act you described above....until then, she probably believed she would remain in Travis' life - but with the prospect of Marie Hall becoming more important to him, she probably couldn't bear the thought of thinking of the two of them in Cancun. She knew how charming and persistent Travis was, and according to various sources she was not aware that Marie Hall only wanted to be friends with Travis...I think she worked herself up into a frenzy, Cancun was supposed to be their trip - in the "1000 Places To See Before You Die" book they shared. The book you referenced sounds interesting, I'll check it out! Enjoy your week!

    2. The book is right up your alley and I think you will love it! DeBecker is the foremost consultant for politicians and celebrities. He had a rough childhood with a violent mother and used his life experience to develop the skill of predicting violent behavior in many different settings. The first crime he describes is just chilling!

      Have a good day!

  6. "They see themselves as the center of the universe, as superior beings who are justified in living according to their own rules. "

    Jodi would get on with Tom Cruise in ScientologyCruise call himself a"big being" or something.

    1. " superior beings who are justified in living according to their own rules. "


  7. I really pray this movie doesn't trash Travis Alexander or pait him as a horrible person as Jodi Arias had stated in all he lies !

    I will totally be pissed and upset if Lifetime makes this movie and even remotely trash TA as i think we've seen Jodi Arias do that enough hasn't JA killed him with not only 29 stabs ,slit his throat, then shot him now for more than 4 months plus all the years before she's killed him over and over again by stabbing his character repeatedly if we took a count on how many negative stabs JA has stated and her defense team it would amount into him being stabbed into the thousands instead of the 29 original stabs ,a slit throat, and gun shot JA surely hasn't stopped killing him ! And I expect that if JA doesnt get DP and a banding to remove all websites, Twitter, FB, etc. , etc regarding her story and art and lies about TA .

    Im looking forward to watching the lifetime movie but agree the title needs to Chang to dirty little lies by Jodi Arias a murderer!

    I hope lifetime does a good job and honors TA or i will never watch that channel again ever !


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